Think you work with a bully? Do you regularly feel intimidated, put down, criticized or dread coming to work? These may be signs that your co-worker is more than mean-spirited and may be a BULLY! In a 2017 National Survey, workplace bullying was defined as “repeated mistreatment of an employee by one or more employees; abusive conduct that is: threatening, humiliating, or intimidating, work sabotage, or verbal abuse.” Here are signs that you are working with a bully and how to protect yourself.
- Recognize that bullies rely on subservient behavior from their victims.
- Decide to stand up to the bully by naming their behavior explicitly.
- Tell them that, if they want to talk to you, then they must talk to you properly.
- Tell them that if they continue to talk to you badly, you will report the matter.
- Do NOT tell a bully how they make you feel (intimidated, upset or frightened).
- Look at the bully directly in the eye and hold their gaze resolutely when talking to them.
- Keep your voice volume slightly louder than your normal, but don’t shout.